I am visiting my son in Houston right now. If you are at MD Anderson, then I have to assume that they have done a thorough workup and a second pathology check on her tumor. There are surgeons in the US that could do the surgery, close to the brain. I know, because I have had it done for another medical condition that I have. But, if it is spreading aggressively, then they may not feel that the surgery would slow the growth rate. Curative means that all of the tumor can be removed and the growth rate of any residual cancer cells can be totally stopped.
If nothing can be done that is curative, then your sister needs you now more than she has ever needed you in her life. She needs you to hold her hand and give her love and support and reassurance that her children will grow up to be healthy, happy, adults. If you sit back, hold her hand, and listen to her; you will find out exactly what she needs from you right now. But, you cannot do that if you are feeling heavily laden with your own guilt. Let it go. It does not help you or your sister. Love her, hug her, listen to her......
Take Care, Sharon - Administrator
This post should not be considered medical advice. Review all information with your doctor.